Christmas for one: how to embrace solitude

Christmas means many different things to different people. Maybe it’s roast dinner at Grandma’s, presents under the tree, craft activities with the kids, romantic dinners with your partner, or snuggling up on the couch to watch The Santa Clause.

But what about those of us who live alone? What about the awesome singletons? Or those who can’t get home due to COVID-19 travel restrictions?

It can be a hard time of year to be alone, but fear not, because the Christmas period can also be a time to celebrate self-sufficiency, rejuvenation, independence and liberation. As Bridget Jones said: “It is proved by surveys that happiness does not come from love, wealth, or power but the pursuit of attainable goals”. And we all know what reliable sources surveys are.

In case you can’t be among friends or family this Christmas, I encourage you to look upon the holidays as an opportunity to show yourself some love and indulge in some self-care. Book a spa day and treat yourself to a massage, sauna session and face mask (don’t forget the cucumber slices!). Get outside and engage in some physical activity – biking, running, skating and pogo sticking (do people still do that?).

It always helps to set goals. I’m training for a marathon at the moment – I love how it keeps me focused and the sense of accomplishment I get from not passing out. Turn on some Christmas music (I recommend the Wiggles) and dance around the house. Get in touch with your inner child! You would be surprised how much music can mask the feel of an empty house. If you play an instrument, why not throw yourself into some lessons over the holidays and learn some new pieces. It feels amazing to watch yourself improve at a hobby, and it keeps your mind occupied.

For the extroverts out there who are really struggling with the lack of human contact, there are lots of ways you can surround yourself with people without breaking social restrictions. If mingling at public gatherings is temporarily not an option, you can turn to technology to maintain your relationships. Try a dating website to meet new people (safely, of course). They’re not just for romance. Many members are just looking for like-minded friends. And then, of course, there’s social media, an incredible way to keep in touch with family and friends. Send someone a random message just to say hi (preferably someone you know) or make a cup of tea and Facetime a friend. You would be surprised how socially fulfilling it is!

I hope this fills you with encouragement that Christmas alone does not need to be filled with despair. There are plenty of ways to treat yourself, to overcome feelings of isolation and both create and maintain your relationships.

I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas!